Women Only Skiing. Is the forty-something-or-over woman Britain’s most wasted resource?
This post on Women Only Skiing is philosophical not technical. It was prompted by an observation I made decades ago, almost when I first started on ski instruction and long before I rose to become a skiing coach.
Because I’m no spring chicken, women over shall we say forty, seem to have found my approach to helping you become a skillful skier less threatening and challenging than some others. And a lot more effective. Partly this is because I respect mature women-folk and their genuine potential. I have a very different approach to ski learning coming from a ski coaching background. Ski instruction and ski coaching are very different.
Read on …
What I noticed back then, and what I have repeatedly re-affirmed is that not for all women of course, but for many and especially women who have had children, there comes a time in life when at last there is some time for you.
Typically, when a woman has found a partner, she will have made a deliberate and conscious decision to dedicate herself to them. To put herself second.
Later if children come along she will dedicate herself to them also, and put herself second.
Sometime later, shall we say somewhere between forty and fifty, the relationship with her partner will have matured, and her children will be at least preparing to fly the nest, or may well have done so.
At last some time for you. Should it be Women Only Skiing ?
FREEDOM! Time to do something for me! Some women choose to either take up or go back to skiing. Many women have not been able to take skiing too seriously up until now. They have mostly gone skiing more for their partner and children, and less for themselves. Often it would seem they have been left behind. Far too often, they have been somewhat belittled. That gets into your thinking.
But middle aged women are NOT second-rate because they may have spent their lives putting themselves second. I regret to say though, that I have had many women in my ski coaching learning groups who have (wrongly) made that conclusion about themselves, and not always only with respect to skiing.
They may join a ski school group to try to improve. Not a Women Only Skiing group, just ski school, whether women-only or not. The potential for disaster is quite high. Progress likely quite low. It is my belief that it doesn’t have to be like that. It doesn’t even have to be a Women Only Skiing group provided that the teaching process is a better one, and is tailored to you.
Feelings of being second-rate aren’t true and aren’t fair. Neither your age nor your gender need be any impediment whatever to your becoming a truly controlled and skilful skier.
How good at it should you be by now?
Commonly skiers of both genders will say “I ought to be better at this”. No, you oughtn’t. You have got no reason in the world for your skiing to be be any different to the way it is. It would have been different – perhaps better, perhaps worse – if your life experience had been different.
If all you had done was to ski, it might have got better ( but not necessarily ). Take a look at Practice makes permanent If you had never skied, it would be less skilful than it now is: you would be a complete beginner. There is no guilt in where it now is, nor reason for excessive pride, and no reason for it to be different. You might wish it were better, but that’s just impatience really.
So if you feel that any of this applies to you, what might you consider? Things like this : –
I know a thing or two.
There is a very long list of difficult things that I’ve achieved, and not just for me either.
I know how to handle set-backs.
I’d like to know more about patting myself on the back. That would be good.
I now have some spare attention capacity that I can allocate to doing some of the things I fancy doing.
It’s going to be a very interesting adventure.
I’m going to GROW. And enjoy myself too.
And I’m not putting up with testosterone-filled skiers and ski instructors of either gender, or anyone else who tries to make me feel small. So there!
You have the potential.
I have a long list of skiers who thought they had no real chance of becoming very good. And they have become very good. They ski pistes they never thought they would, and often some off-piste they never thought they could.
If you are a woman – of any age really and certainly up to 70 – you have exactly that same potential. Probably not to become a world champion, but then neither have I; but certainly to get to be able to ski any piste anywhere. Safely. With confidence. Making accurate judgements.
Believe in yourself. Why not, I believe in you?